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Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Candlemas - The Light Shines in the Darkness

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 The Light Shines in the Darkness
Before your neighbors say a single word or throw a little shade….let me tell you:  You don’t need to have those Christmas decorations down so soon.  Well, you have until February 2.  Just wish everyone “Happy Holidays and/or Holy Days”.  And, if they’re still listening, explain that the celebration of our Lord’s birth doesn’t end on December 26, no matter how persistent some people are in dragging their trees to the curb on the second day of Christmas.  (I’ve always wondered if these people spend Christmas night un-decorating their trees so that they can be out on the street when dawn breaks on the morning of the 26th.  Such a sad sight.) 
The Church gives us the slow Advent build up to Christmas, in spite of the surrounding cultural pressure.  It also gives us a slow, steady time to taper off from all the trappings of the season, while never forgetting what we are celebrating.
As we know, there are twelve days of Christmas and the Feast of the Epiphany.  (If you have included a house blessing on Epiphany, complete with chalk above your front door - e.g. 20+C+M+B+13 - perhaps your neighbors are curious about your decoration customs.  Or maybe they are afraid to ask.) And our time of celebration is legitimately prolonged until the Feast of the Presentation of Christ in the Temple also known as the Feast of the Purification, Candlemas, and, for those of us weather obsessed and winter-weary in the Northern Hemisphere, Groundhog Day.
At the time of Jesus’ birth, the custom was for the mother of a male child to present him at the temple forty days after his birth, along with a lamb and a pigeon as a sacrifice.  Luke’s Gospel tells us that Mary and Joseph were poor and could not afford a lamb, so Jesus was presented in the temple with two turtledoves for sacrifice. (Remember those two turtledoves that kept popping up in Muzak back in  November?)  It was at his presentation that the prophet Simeon held the infant Jesus in his arms.  At this moment he knew that the savior he had been waiting for had arrived and prayed his glorious Nunc dimittis.
On this last of the holy days that celebrate the arrival of the Light of the World, we celebrate Candlemas, the day when the candles for the coming year are blessed, often including the recitation of the Nunc dimittis (which I still remember singing as the post-communion hymn from my Lutheran childhood and can only recite in its King James version: “Lord, now lettest thou thy servant depart in peace, according to thy word: For mine eyes have seen thy salvation, Which thou hast prepared before the face of all people; A light to lighten the Gentiles, and the glory of thy people Israel”  -  Luke 2:29) In the blessing of the candles on Candlemas we emphasize once more Jesus as the Light of the World.   
The candles used in church must be at least 51% beeswax.  This is not just an aesthetic directive – though anyone who has had a chance to work with beeswax candles knows their exquisite tactile nature, their beautiful fragrance, and all around superior performance.  The wax from bees is very symbolic, but practicality allows us to use candles that are a minimum of 51% beeswax.  (If you have spent any time paging through church supply catalogues and balancing budgetary concerns, it is immediately apparent why most parishes would need to go without pure beeswax candles, as marvelous as they may be)  But there must be the minimum 51% percentage of beeswax.  The pure wax extracted by bees from flowers) symbolizes the pure flesh of Christ received from His Virgin Mother, the wick signifies the soul of Christ, and the flame represents His divinity. Everything involved with our sacred liturgy has a meaning and all these things point to Christ.
I found an interesting reference online about some Candlemas superstitions that developed over time, including a belief that if Christmas decorations are not removed by Candlemas, traces of holly etc. may lead to the death of the foot dragger who can’t get things removed in time.  Perhaps this translates in our time to the ‘social-death’ that accompanies the notoriety of being the last person on your block to have decorations left up; or worse, receives sanctions from an indignant homeowners association.
Many cultures have also had weather lore that sprang up in relation to Candlemas.  There is an old English rhyme:
If Candlemas Day be fair and bright
Winter will have another fight.
If Candlemas Day brings cloud and rain,
Winter won't come again.
And the German equivalent:
" The badger peeps out of his hole on Candlemas Day,
and, if he finds snow, walks abroad;
but if he sees the sun shining he draws back into his hole.”

Naturally, one name comes to mind when we hear rhymes such as this… Punxsutawney Phil.  The American development of the old custom, brought to Pennsylvania by German immigrants, lives on to this day, as the media of the United States descend upon a town in Pennsylvania to see if the groundhog sees his shadow.  Other zoos throughout the nation have their own groundhogs, but no groundhog “holds a candle”  (is that a day-appropriate phrase or what?) to Punxsutawney Phil.
Who knew a pop culture star like Punxsutawney Phil (whichever actual lucky groundhog happens to hold the title at the time) owes his fame to Catholic custom?  Or that we are totally correct in keeping our decorations up until the beginning of February?  We are not slackers.  We are keeping the message out there.  Jesus is “a light to lighten the Gentiles and the glory of thy people Israel.”   “The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” (John 1:5)  Jesus is the light of the world.  

Tuesday, January 03, 2012

JOY, LOVE, BELIEVE
It's not all tutus, stray toes and bubonic plague at my house.  Really.  I've been giving some serious thought to the cognitive dissonance that I feel this time of year. But...there is that real love - believable love - that frees us so that we can find joy in a variety of moments, whether solemn or absurd.

Monday, January 02, 2012

To keep and ponder in my heart...
I am thankful that there are twelve days of Christmas...So much happens; so many happy moments.  There is more than I could possible process in just one day.  Early Advent may have found me in the doldrums but things were picking up by Christmas.  Some of my job responsibilities of have changed, so that I was still busy at work but not quite as manic.  I wasn't as prepared as I hoped to be, but December 25 arrived ready or not.  And now there are the memories to savor. 
Lily was good as gold at church - but she needed to cut loose while waiting for dinner.


Keep the curtains closed so we don't see the snowless Christmas morn!

That rug really tied the room together.  The severed toe was a big hit, too.


Someone gave Bridget a hand.  No - really.






Bubonic Plague Stress Ball - the hit gift of the year.  (unless you are three years old; then it is pure terror)

Sunday, December 18, 2011

I Think We Have a Problem
I surrendered in the battle of the Christmas tree.  It is up - with lights and red beads, awaiting an appropriate decorating time.  Festive.  I'm not saying I endorse this early tree business, but it is festive.  I'm not sure what Scrappy is going to do when the tree is fully decorated and presents are underneath.  He insists on burrowing into the "tree skirt"* for his winter's naps.  I know the floor gets cold...we've got to find a blanket for him.  His obesity/arthritis keeps him from jumping into bed with me...which I almost miss. 

*yes, it is made out of a chopped up tablecloth.  Classy.  A step up from the previous skirt, which was improvised out of a plaid flannel bed sheet.  I did look at a ruffled satin skirt at T.J. Maxx with a bit of temptation but it was ridiculously pricey, even at the 'off' price.  There was no way to justify that expense...especially for a glorified dog bed.

Sunday, November 27, 2011

More fun than a middle-aged lady should have.
 The Day After Thanksgiving.
That's what I call it.  Black Friday is acceptable as a description for those in retail.  But promoting it as if it were a legitimate holiday - perhaps more important than that pathetically antiquated, barely profitable, useless hold-over, Thanksgiving - and something of a secular holy day,  grates on my nerves sooo badly.  But not shopping on Friday is more of a mental health protective reflex for me, rather than a statement.  Crowds, rude crowds, traffic, rude drivers in parking lots...a million and one reasons to stay home. 
I hope no one is allergic - I hope, I hope, I hope.

But since I was home for the day, I did accept a lunch invitation from my husband.  He was also headed out to find birthday gifts for his parents.  My input was not needed, so I did jump at the chance to run into the craft store while he was shopping.  There is something so soothing about walking around the craft store when I don't need anything.   [In contrast to the emergency trips to the craft store for things like a styrofoam balls, rings, pins, sequins and glitter to create a giant mercury atom - the final price being close to its atomic number.] 

I found some interesting ideas for Christmas gifts.  Enjoyed being by myself and able to easily navigate the aisles blocked with knots of bickering mothers and daughters, indecisive shoppers and men whose presence radiated 'duress'.

And I came home with a few fun things.  We have a lot of those Safari Ltd. Toobs.  Educational.  I have always been overly fond of the Ancient Egypt Toob.  I'm no longer actively looking for these - I didn't know they had added any items to their catalog.  And then the Around the World Toob caught my eye.  You know, I can use it teach Lily and Maddie about the world.  And for now, it's more fun than a middle-aged lady should have with a bunch of little buildings.

The checkout had a display of Scentsicles.  I think they are aimed at people who are trying to disguise the artificiality of their artificial trees, thereby a moot point for us, right?  Especially since I don't like a lot of 'scents.'  The scented candle aisle in any store is something I try to avoid -  I can't discuss this further without needing to use words like "migraine" and "puke."  But...the clerk had a sample Scentsicle for me to try.  And it brought back those precious moments when the tree first comes in the house and the celebration of Christmas becomes imminent.  [And allow me another chance to repeat that when I was a child that happened on the morning of December 24!]  Sometimes nature could use a little nudge.  The tree can start to lose its fragrance; olfactory fatigue sets in.  But not this year.  The Scentsicles were half price!  They are now on my nightstand - a little whiff helps fend off the blues.  Like when I turn on the TV and they are blathering about Black Friday sales continuing all week-end. 

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

To be honest, I'm surprised it took this long...

It has been nine days since our glittery ornament making extravaganza.  Oh, the tourmaline, garnet,  and lapis lazuli. Everywhere.

Despite our best efforts to return all excess to their respective bottles, a lot of glitter escaped. (That's the funny thing...very little glitter can be a lot.)    We're seeing in everywhere.  One of the girls noticed that her father has been walking around today with a generous highlight of gold on one of his ears; clearly the result of his having to pass too closely to the ornaments still hanging on the line near his place at the dinner table.

I'm having a bit of Catholic Icing envy. [ Be sure to check out the Legos for Catholic kids.]  And I thought a glitter party would help.  I've never taken the glitter out for a group to share.  I've only used it while locked in my room, measuring it out with the accuracy of someone handling plutonium.  But Emily's need of more ornaments for this year's bigger tree coupled with the Rubbermaid bin of clear and silver ornaments that the non-fun people across the street put on the curb presented the perfect opportunity. 

I accept that the twinkling results of our work will be with us for a long time.  Emily had an appointment with the eye doctor today.  Guess what he found in her eye?  A lovely piece of the garnet glitter. 

Saturday, November 27, 2010

It's Show Time, Folks!
It's that time again.  Conflicted feelings.  Advent anticipation; flop sweat dread.  If that explains my flat affect when given the run down on the family white elephant gift exchange.  At this point, facing the first Sunday in Advent, it's all too much a problem to be solved rather than a mystery to be lived.

Although...the day to day work logistics do take my mind off of family dynamics.  We are split about 2 to 1 in favor of the introverted and Aspergian.  There are those of us for whom facing the extended family for Christmas revelry is more painful than a root canal; the other third of the family thinks...well, they think badly of the rest of us.  We're antisocial, mean, slacker sociopaths.  Yeah, but they want our company anyway.

I need a full four weeks of prayerful preparation to approach my role as mediator, facilitator, apologist and liason.  Smoothing over, explaining, encouraging.  This is exhausting, since I am part of the introverted majority and no longer have a mother to explain why Ellyn just wants to sit alone in her bedroom for a while.

So, the mentally exhausting work of my day job is a nice distraction.  (Though it calls upon me to be "Social Ellyn" - leaving little of that left for my family)  In some ways, I have my dream job.  But, as I have kvetched in other years, it gets to be a little bit too much like show business rather than religion.  And it is hard to walk into church on Christmas Eve (one of 12 Christmas Masses at our parish) and have that catch in my breath - a moment overwhelmed by the beauty and the mystery.  It's harder when you already know what the hymns will be, the diameter of candles, the purveyor of the incense.  The childlike giddiness is supplanted by the adrenaline fear-rush of having a job that will only be noticeable if I screw it up.

It's show time, folks.  Time to pull it together. Gird my loins.  Pack away my ceramic pumpkins and glass turkeys and get my house in order.

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Whoa! Not So Fast...
While browsing through a Christmas catalog I found, in between the blown glass flowers, frogs and fortune cookies, this bit of presumption ready for personalization. I would hope that my loved ones would continue to pray for my soul, rather than assume my immediate admission to the beatific vision. Now to find a catalog with a "Christmas in Purgatory" ornament...

Thursday, October 22, 2009


I Know Good Kitsch When I See It*

In the summer of 1978, when Rick and I were impoverished newly-weds, The Ideals Publishing Company liquidated a great deal of its original art. I insisted on going to the sale - just to have a look at some of the pictures from my favorite Christmas picture book. The paintings were large and impressive and only selling for about $750 each. Where are those paintings today? I have no idea. We certainly didn't purchase one.

Why am I thinking about this book in October? Besides the fact that a certain section of my brain (labeled: WORK) is already sweating Christmas, a reissue of Jolly Old Santa Claus had popped up in my amazon recommendations. I already have an abridged version in board book form, which I am sure I will be sharing with Lily this year. Seeing how much good condition vintage copies of this are selling for makes me regret, if only for a moment, all the wear and tear my sister and I put on this. And then there were all the years the kids and I would study each whimsical scene from Santa's workshop... (The story? I don't think it has that much of a plot. Santa delivers the gifts that the elves have made. Mrs. Santa runs a tight ship. Everybody is pretty exhausted by December 26.) In the realm of secular Christmas books, this is still my fav. And I'm flattered that amazon thinks I would like it. Some of the other recommendations worry me...


*trust me, I majored in Art History.

Saturday, October 17, 2009

'Tis the Season...
Thinking about gift books? There has been a lot of buzz about Matchless: A Christmas Story, by Gregory Maguire, which is a reworking of Hans Christian's Andersen's Little Match Girl. I normally wouldn't invest much time in criticism of gift books, but the promise of a new Christmas classic piqued my interest and left me quite disappointed.
Not so much A Christmas Story as a wintertime story set in a Scandinavian country, with only passing references to the holiday to link it any way to the celebration of the Incarnation. The original Little Match Girl was a grim story that made for some traumatic childhood reading, and this is not much of an improvement.
The plot was not believable yet also oddly predictable (our little protagonist's mother marries the match girl's father) and though the ending was technically happier than Andersen's original, I would still have to rate it as pretty much of a bummer. Touted as a "spellbinding gift book"...I just don't see it. If you are looking for a spellbinding Christmas gift book I would suggest, maybe, The Glorious Impossible by Madeleine L'Engle. Now that's a Christmas story.

Tuesday, January 06, 2009

20 + C +M+B + 09
Has anyone seen the blessed chalk?
Please don't tell me it's gone walk about. Just like the baby Jesus from the Playmobil Nativity.
I mean, can't a person set something down and expect to find it when she comes looking for it a year later?

Monday, January 05, 2009

Our Totemic Christmas Customs - Christmas Yet to Come

Behold! A most cherished gift and addition to our Christmas decor. But perhaps a bit lacking in the gris gris - juju - tschotschke department. So on this last day of Christmas, I ask for any and all suggestions on how this all too subdued and tasteful wreath can be brought in line with our family aesthetic. No Precious Moments, Praying Santas, fallout from other holidays, double-entendres or any incendiary materials (literally or figuratively), please!
Our Totemic Christmas Customs - #12

A little irony.
My tribute to the ornaments that my father would hang from the bayonet of the rifle above the family room fireplace.
Our Totemic Christmas Customs - #11

The Gilbert Shoe Company of Thiensville, Wisconsin, makers of fine children's shoes, went out of business in 1978. My Aunt Tommy was the office manager; working at the shoe factory had been her only job for over fifty years, starting right out of high school at the age of seventeen.

When all available personnel had claimed ornaments that they had added to the office Christmas tree over the years there leftovers. Aunt Tommy decided I would be the perfect recipient for the unclaimed ornaments. Rick and I had been married that June. Money was, in newly-wed fashion, tight. Free ornaments were very much appreciated.

To be honest, I took in those ornaments thinking that as years went by they could be replaced by 'better' ornaments of my choosing. But they have been integrated into our traditions, as a sweet reminder of the humble beginnings of our particular nuclear family. Additions of been made. My parents died and my sister and I brought the ornaments of our childhood back into our respective homes. And things have come back around. Now it is time to start spinning ornaments off to the children for their own respective trees. (Emily, your pig is ready when you are. I now this Christmas has been a bit chaotic!)
Our Totemic Christmas Customs - #10

World War II snowball ornament made by my father's step-mother.

A lot of the snow has fallen off and the general appearance is dingy. But it wouldn't be a tree-trimming without the snowball and the retelling of family history, with a digression into American resourcefulness. Then the talk will usually jump to the aging golden glass ball with the letter "R" painted on; all that is left of the MERRY CHRISTMAS spelled out in ornaments in the photo my father made for the Christmas card the first year my parents were married. My sister may have one letter, but that would be all.

These are a few of the things that would constitute an eyesore for those who want a posh tree. We can't imagine it any other way.

Monday, December 29, 2008


Our Totemic Christmas Customs - #9


Mardi Gras Crawfish.
And a blown glass lobster from Paris. The 37 franc price tag is left on as an educational novelty.

Sunday, December 28, 2008

Our Totemic Christmas Customs - #8

What's the frosting on the cake of a bibliophile's Christmas?
Why, an ornament from the Library of Congress, of course!
A gift from Em and Big Ed Lilyanne's parents.

Saturday, December 27, 2008

SnowReal...and other miscellany of the Christmas Season

n Yes. It is Snow Real. "...incredibly fluffy and glistening, feels just like real snow." Fascinating. I take a bit of exception with the "feels like real snow." More like 'feels what snow would feel like if it could be gluey and room temperature.' But the look is....stunning. A tablespoon of the powder makes more fake snow than we could possibly use in our house. It would be better if we could use it around the Christmas village or creche, but I don't think it belongs on fine wood surfaces. I must check the big, posh garden store for a marked down packet to send my sister for Christmas next year. As though people in the north woods needed to make fake snow.

n amazon.com has been pretty nice in responding to my inquiries about that book order (I paid standard shipping, for heaven's sake!) that shipped from Forest Park, IL last Monday and is now languishing in a 'facility' in Missouri. They can't explain what happened or get it 'unstuck' from Missouri, but they've refunded my shipping, so that's a start. Yes, next year I won't cut it so close. I intend to by all my Christmas gifts from amazon and have them super-saver shipped by the second week in August.

n No more magnetic holy cards. Ever. Though the beautiful glitter assortment that Bridget gave me is calling out for a project. But there has to be some sort of moratorium on the glittered, magnetic holy cards. Starting on the day when I no longer find find glitter when combing my hair.

n I must figure out where this so-called "Gator Bowl" takes place. My niece is on her way, with her high school marching band. As a supportive aunt and purchaser of several virtual fundraising car washes I should find out more about it. My sister is in despair having received a text message from Anne passing through "Gorga." We're hoping it's Georgia and this unpleasant lapse is a function of texting on a moving bus. We hope.

n I keep having this feeling that I am forgetting something. Like the baby Jesus I hid behind the manger at work (with every intention of moving it out on 12/24). Loose end feelings. Maybe it's the glorious shock of having a new familiar member, complicated by pre-Christmas nerves and post-viral blahs. And the crazy weather.

Friday, December 26, 2008


Our Totemic Christmas Customs - #7
Apropos for the day when my granddaughter may be born, I offer Eddie's BabyFace ornament. These were found in the drug store in December 1993 - a promotional item for . . . a 'less invasive' baby thermometer. Though Eddie also has a fancy baby's first Christmas ornament, this is has become a Christmas staple.

The next baby face here will be the crown princess of the vonHuben-Cheng dynasty. As soon as she arrives... (And when she meets her aunts and uncles, I bet she'll have the same expression as the ornament.)




Thursday, December 25, 2008

Our Totemic Christmas Customs - #6

Some sort of purplish metallic thingy - from my great-grandfather's house.
A glass bell (one of six) purchased at Hilger's Hardware Store, Thiensville, WI - circa 1960.
Both ornaments must have been present at a fair share of Christmas celebrations presided over by an ailing parent.
I'll say no more. I'm going back to bed.

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